I set on this experiment a little over 2 months ago, and while I didn’t mean for it to take so long I am pretty satisfied that I finally managed to follow through with it. While originally meant to form the beginnings of bonding between strangers by initiating questions that gradually increase with intimacy, I decided to use it as a way for my readers to not only get to know me, and to increase the intimacy in the relationships I already have.
My first step for this week was to engage Scott & convince him to play along. It actually didn’t take much work and we spent an evening just ‘giving it a go’. We’ve been together for about a year and a half now, and I think we can officially say we’ve reached the end of our honeymoon phase and are slowly transitioning into the next stage of our relationship. Every relationship will eventually stabilize, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it has to ‘plateau’ either, so we took this as a way to get to know one another again and reaffirm what we already knew. I would say we took about 3 hours of lounging on the couch, cuddling, and throwing questions back and forth. It was fun, if not a riveting night out, and something I’m glad we tried. It was great to open the lines of communication in a distinctly positive way and interesting to hear what the person had to say when prompted. Sometimes all you need to do is hear the words spoken, even if you already know them.
Onto my social experiment!
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “
Readers! If you are reading this I’m going to make a couple of assumptions…
(A) We both have an interest in the environment if not agriculture itself.
(B) We both have a sense of style & love of design.
(C) You like people who can speak direct with you & not have to sift through what someone is saying! We like real, tangible conversations!
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
Readers! You need to know that I’m down to earth and a ‘No-BS’ kinda person. I’ll say it how I see it and sometimes you have to take what I say with a grain of salt. Realize that even though I vocalize my opinion, I don’t mean to disrespect yours. I’m all about open and engaging conversations, there are always 2 sides to a fence and I like to make people think!
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
I love how readers and activists in the agricultural industry back each other up and provide positive support! We need more of this to promote a healthy rural lifestyle where communities come together! (I do normally try to save my obsessive farm talk for our second conversation!)
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
Girl moment filled with TMI! When I first started my womanly monthlies I spotted through without realizing until a boy I had a crush on pointed it out. Most mortifying moment of my life!
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
My man gets the brunt of this one, and it was probably this past weekend. Late nights and exhaustion caught up with tight deadlines, conflicting plans, and stress. By myself, well he had to come to the rescue and managed to avoid the worst as he talked me down over the phone on his way over. Smart man ;P
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
I love hearing bits and pieces about peoples lives, especially in my most recent giveaway and hearing what about farming and agriculture appeals to people from both sides of the fence!
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
The typical dead baby jokes… I can’t stand them. If I even think of my child in danger my Momma Grizzly comes out, I can’t fathom why someone would think for a moment that any of those jokes are funny. Religion is also a touchy subject, jokes are fine but make sure you’re not walking that line of joking and being disrespectful.
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
I think I usually say what I need too and really can’t think of anything. There are one or two old friends I don’t speak with often just because of life and I would probably initiate contact with them and just reiterate my love for anyone, especially my family.
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
I wear my sentimental jewelry pieces everyday so I would probably have to say my cell phone, no joke lol.
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
Eps, these questions get pretty rough around the edges! As a mother though my first and foremost priority is to protect and raise my daughter.
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
Phew, now that #35 is over (who came up with these questions again?!) I’d say my biggest problem right now is getting over my fear of exposing myself and then failing. When you have such a large passion for something and then finally open up to it, especially with others, its scary to think that eventually you might have to be held accountable for failures you may not necessarily have control over. I do, however, like that it challenges to push yourself and do things you might not otherwise have overcome! 🙂
Next… bonding time with the Lil Sis! Oh, she’s going to hate me 😛